Monday, August 25, 2014

Kindness Rules At Sweet Sixteen


Theodore Roosevelt, one of my all time favorite presidents, led the Rough Riders to victory, established our national parks system, inspired the creation of countless “teddy bears” and called us all to dare greatly:
 “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
Two dreamers: Taylor and Bryanna (left to right)

 If Teddy Roosevelt were alive today he would be making a whistle stop in Bath, Maine to give a cheer for Bryanna and Taylor and their Morse High School Dream Team. On August 16, 2014, these brave hearts opened Bath’s first annual “Random Acts of Kindness Day,” and at least for a day they washed all of our cares away. From their Information Station on the corner of Front and Center to their “Children’s Zone” between Country Farm Furniture and Dot’s Ice Cream Shop, there were more than a dozen "Kindness Stations," and there was also an open microphone in front of City Hall for John Ater, Max Ater, The All Ways One Band and a stream of male and female musicians! August 16 turned out to be the sweetest day of the year in Bath because of the daring “can do” spirit of a rising high school senior. When I first met Bryanna, she was standing on the corner like the captain of a ship. The purple t-shirt that she was wearing had a “Be kinder than necessary” bumper sticker pressed across its front, and as she watched all the happy people walk by, she was grinning from ear to ear and bubbling over with glee! Bryanna’s mom, who was sitting at the Information Station, had pointed to Bryanna when I asked who was the inventor of this fabulous event. Later, when I congratulated Bryanna, she was quick to introduce her friend and fellow dreamer, Taylor. Both young women were eager to share the applause with teammates and, most especially, with their families, who had turned out in large numbers for the first ever Random Acts of Kindness Day! 

Leslie Trundy visits with fellow dreamers
Bryanna was a poetic 16 going on 17 year old  junior when she first joined Morse High School’s Dream Team and voiced her wish to start a Random Acts of Kindness Day in Bath. As fate and Bath would have it, Darreby Ambler, the founder of Dream Teams, had opened an office at 72 Front Street and was ready to develop a team at the high school. Darreby had already launched over 20 dream teams and over 100 dreamers, and she was enthusiastic about Morse’s team and Bryanna’s idea. Leslie Trundy, a guidance counselor at Morse, was also keen on helping Bryanna’s dream come true. The little engine that could was beginning to pick up steam; however, as Teddy Roosevelt’s famous speech suggests, there are always skeptics in the crowd. Would people come to a kindness event? Would anyone sit down at the “Listening Station” and talk to a perfect stranger (probably a trusted community leader) who promised to only listen? Would skilled participants gather at “Relay Knitting” and knit a few rows of a wool scarf for someone in need? Of course, people would “Take a Treat” from Tracey Bushnell at the Cosmopolitan Club’s station because how could anyone resist cookies and brownies baked by the kind ladies of Bath, and Tracey does in fact have a great smile! Pretty flowers are almost as irresistible as gingerbread, so the “Pick a Flower” from the Bath Garden Club would see a crowd, too. By the end of the day, there would be a line at the “Chair Massage” station where Ruthanne Greenlaw, a licensed massage therapist, was giving away relaxation as her random act of kindness. Personally, I have enjoyed one of Ruthanne’s massages at InspireMe, located in the Customs House, and I smile more often now! Massages make everyone feel better!

Beverly and June provide wisdom
The “Wisdom Station” was a definite wild card, but as a grateful recipient, I can testify that this station was pure genius! As a high school teacher who is accustomed to working with 14 to 18 year old students, I am not surprised that a group of teenagers organized an all inclusive, loving event, but I must also note the irony. Life experience has taught me that many accomplished adults are afraid of adolescents. Their unpredictable behavior, bold fashion statements and fiery choice of words, often drive mature men and women to sit as far away as possible from them at restaurants, movie theaters, or train stations! Simply stated, Bryanna and Taylor, the loving designers of “Random Acts of Kindness Day” are proof positive that teenagers are beautiful and should be hugged as often as possible! The endearing quality of the “Wisdom Station” and the “Children’s Zone” was undeniable from one end of Front Street to the other because they engaged all age groups!  At the Wisdom Station, I sat down to seek the advice of four residents of the Plant Home, Bath’s distinguished home for the elderly. I asked John, Alice, Beverly and June, what I should tell my own “adult children” (clearly an oxymoron). Without a moment’s hesitation, all four of the elders leaned in and replied in chorus, “Tell them nothing!” Now that is pure wisdom! Ironically, I am often more comfortable with teenagers than senior citizens, and I would not have sat down next to June if Betsy Pare, the owner of Maine Shades, had not invited me to take her place at the wisdom table. Betsy also kindly took her iPad and began snapping pictures to capture the love. Every photo taken shows that people did indeed come to Bath's “Random Acts of Kindness Day!"
 

Young artists offer to paint portraits for free
Traditionally, American girls celebrate their sixteenth birthday with as much exuberance as Mexican girls celebrate their “quinceañera,” their fifteenth birthday. I wonder if Bryanna and Taylor chose August 16 randomly? If they did, it was randomly brilliant because many of us remember 16 as being “sweet,” and I believe one of the sweetest stations was located on the far corner between Front and Water. The “Have Your Portrait Painted by a Child Artist” station pulled at my heart strings so strongly that I had to just stand and watch for a while. The event program listed cousins Sammy, Evelyn and Jonathan as the artists, but I also caught a glimpse of Goldilocks, a little girl with bright eyes and wavy hair, who looked remarkably like Leslie Trundy. Perhaps it was Leslie’s own little dreamer. After all, this day was definitely a family affair! One fine lady, who was having her portrait drawn by a young artist, had her dog, a beautiful tri-color Welsh Corgi, sit beside her. It was a picture right out of a Tasha Tudor story book! Of course, families include pets, so I brought my Dachshund-Sheltie, Penny, who received lots of compliments and lots of loving pats. She even received a treat at the "Animal Shelter" station.  All of God’s creatures were happy in Bath on that randomly kind day!

Father and son spell love
On planet Earth, there were some definite highs and lows in August, but the young and the young at heart of Bath clearly played a happy song on August 16 and allowed all who arrived on the corner between bitter and sweet to embrace kindness, to talk, to eat, to draw, to sing and be happy! I believe my hero, Teddy Roosevelt, recently portrayed by Robin Williams in “Night at the Museum,” would have approved of the sincere wish of Bryanna and Taylor, the hard work of Morse High School’s Dream Team, the caring guidance of Leslie Trundy and the courageous imagination of Darreby Ambler. One cannot help but notice that Darreby’s name suggests the “daring” acts that Teddy Roosevelt called us to perform. In the same way, one cannot help but notice that Robin Williams, that bright light of comedy, passed away on August 11, just days before Bath’s first annual "Random Acts of Kindness Day."  I don’t believe in coincidence; rather, I believe we live our lives on purpose and some paths are destined to cross. Whether we remember Robin Williams as Teddy Roosevelt, as the Genie in Aladdin, as the therapist in Good Will Hunting, as Mrs. Doubtfire, as the teacher in Dead Poet Society, as the disc jockey in Good Morning Vietnam, or as Mork in Mork & Mindy, I trust we will all remember the way his random humor made us laugh out loud. For a while, he made us forget all of our troubles, and he made us feel happy! Mork ended every episode by reporting to his alien supervisor, Orson, on human behavior. Celebrating the life of Robin Williams, a writer for Time, James Poniewozik, recalled one of Mork’s closing observations: “Love doesn’t make sense. That’s why earthlings think it’s so wonderful.” Morse High School’s Dream Team poured us all a tall glass of love on August 16. In Orkan speak, “Nanu nanu!”   
A Welsh Corgi offers a smile to people passing by


Saturday, August 9, 2014

Paddle Slowly and Enjoy the Blue



"Mark's Canoe Shop"
I am a true blue fan of CBS’s hit television drama NCIS, and I confess that Special Agent Leroy Jethro Gibbs, played by Mark Harmon, seems like a hero I know. For the past 11 seasons, Gibbs has been constructing boats and other wooden masterpieces in his basement to steady his hand and focus his thoughts. Gibbs’ private “wood shop” has become a fascinating place that thousands of viewers like to visit every Tuesday night. Building a boat by hand, naming it, and giving it away, is a powerful act of love. Over the past 11 months, my son, Mark, built a canoe out of cedar wood and synthetic fabric for his dad in his spare time. On July 25, 2014, he drove down Washington Street with that long, light canoe tied to the roof of his Chevy Impala as his dad stood waiting in front of our house. It was a Kodak moment, and it was purely nonfiction! Sometimes the people we know and love stand taller than all of the action heroes we watch on TV or see in the movies. When Mark pulled into our driveway and told his dad the canoe was for him, he was way taller than Gibbs!

The hand-made canoe arrives at Lake Nequasset
Without a doubt, Bath, Maine, inspired Mark to build a boat. Mark was with Joe and I when we first visited Bath during a February snowstorm, and, of course, we went to the Maine Maritime Museum. At the museum there is an interactive tugboat exhibit, and we rang the bell and pretended to steer as I told Mark about his grandfather’s experience working on the tugboats of New York Harbor after WWII. Across from the museum’s gift store there is a display case with a ship’s engine and a photograph of Steve McQueen playing Jake Holman in the motion picture “The Sand Pebbles.”  As we read Jake’s quote about the beautiful sound of an engine in motion, I told Mark about my dad’s service on naval destroyers in the Pacific and the North Atlantic as a chief in the engine room, and my brother’s service as a naval officer in the Indian Ocean, the North Atlantic, the Caribbean, and the Mediterranean. Mark is a high school math teacher, and he listens better than anyone I know, so it’s not surprising that he absorbed the naval history of our family that day and saved it to his hard drive. 
 
Boats and blue water surround Seguin Island

Later, after buying our Maine house, Mark returned to Bath in July, 2013 to help celebrate my birthday, and four of us took a boat ride to Seguin Island to picnic, hike, and take in the blue view! On a perfect birthday, we vowed that all July birthdays from that day forward would be celebrated on a boat, surrounded by blue water! I have always liked the color blue, but in Maine it is becoming my go to color! (Our painter, John Ater, advised us to paint the ceiling of our covered deck a sky blue because it is a Maine tradition, and I am so glad we did!) What’s astonishing about our July 27, 2013 commitment to blue is that Mark silently promised to build a boat to insure our future happiness! He began his canoe project two months later with the help of his colleague, an experienced boat builder and a phenomenal wood shop teacher!

Lake Nequasset
Even before Mark arrived with his birch colored canoe, Joe and I began scouting out sites that would be good for launching a 14 foot, lightweight boat. Thanks to a helpful neighbor, we discovered Lake Nequasset, which is located in nearby Woolwich and happens to be the water supply for the city of Bath.  As Bath and fate would have it, Woolwich was originally called “Nequasset” after the peninsula's 425 acre lake. The lake was named by the Abenaki Indians, and its wealth of fish, plants and surrounding timber encouraged early settlement. Edward Bateman and James Brown (no relation to “The Godfather of Soul”) purchased the land from the Abenaki tribal leader known as “Chief Robinhood” in 1639. Perhaps the area residents thought the prices were too high at the local trading post and the chief was really a noble bandit. I support the theory that history is a mixture of myth and fact in equal measure. History tells us, however, that beautiful Nequasset endured more than its fair share of violence and heartbreak one hundred years before the Revolutionary War. According to the history books, warriors attacked a trading post, which belonged to the Hammond family, on August 13,1676 at Day’s Ferry. The warriors burned, looted, scalped, and captured members of the family living and working by the Kennebec River. Nequasset was attacked again during King William’s War and again during Dummer’s War in 1723. The last recorded conflict on this striking blue and green peninsula occurred in 1758 during the French and Indian War. In 1759, Nequasset became a district of Georgetown and was renamed Woolwich after a city in England. If only the French and Indian War had been the last war, we wouldn’t have to worry about the alarming news reports we hear today from around the globe. And that is why paddling Mark’s canoe on Lake Nequasset is so extraordinary. It’s like taking a spoonful of sugar with your morning coffee or afternoon tea! Paddling a canoe makes swallowing the news a whole lot easier! I believe Mark’s birch like canoe reminds us all of the Native Americans who used to paddle on Lake Nequasset hoping to maintain their balance with nature and their way of life. Ironically, Mark's birthday is August 13, and he is a peacemaker!
The canoe is successfully launched!

By chance, when Joe and I viewed
 Fish Ladder Restoration Project underway at Nequasset Dam
Lake Nequasset's boat launch for the first time, we saw a crew of men working on the lake’s dam. Later, I discovered that they were part of the Nequasset Fish Ladder Restoration Project, and I became even more interested in the history of the lake. According to a Times Record article published last December, the Kennebec Estuary Land Trust (KELT) received grants to the sum of $50,000 to support outreach, planning, design and management of the restoration project that will replace a 58 year old concrete pool and weir style fish ladder on the active alewife run at the Nequasset Dam. Alewives serve as food for striped bass, bluefish, haddock, halibut, seals, and whales to name just a few sea creatures that benefit from the safe passage of this fish which spends most of its life at sea but returns to fresh water to spawn. An improved passage for the alewives also helps to maintain a strong connection between our ocean, rivers and lakes. Last but not least, alewives are the preferred bait for spring lobster fishery. As we all know, lobsters and Mainers go together like a coke and a smile, but who knew that a favorite spot for local fishing and canoeing was also the number one priority for KELT and its commitment to fish ladder recovery along the Kennebec! One quiet ride in Mark’s hand-made canoe certainly taught me a lot about nature, and balance, and the beauty of a timeless form of transportation! It was fun to go native in Woolwich! And after an afternoon of paddling, we returned home to Washington Street for a barbeque topped off with a black raspberry and vanilla ice cream cake from Witch Spring Hill. Birthdays don't get any better than that!

P.S. Since Mark gave the canoe to his father, you may be wondering what Mark gave me for my birthday. Mark knows me well, so he gave me a dozen muffins from his favorite local bakery in Somerville, MA to share with the family. Sugar times 12 equals happiness in Bath and everywhere!